​​​​​Gifts and Quirks for those who have an Autistic Disability.


 Above Average IQ
  This is generally true for those with specifically Asperger's Syndrome; I have an IQ of 135 according to my last IQ tests - not that I trust that grading; I imagine my IQ is far lower.

The main difficulty with having an higher IQ when you also have Asperger's is that its really hard to express or communicate intelligence. Due to problem solving and other associated difficutlies; judgments can sadly be made that those with Asperger's don't have an high IQ, or an ability to understand anything at all; and they can become victims of bullying as a result, either because the bully is jealous of a high IQ, or does not understand the difficulties of expressing an higher IQ. None of these things are faults in the victim, but are faults in the bully. 
An above avergae IQ can usually be represented within some people with Aspergers passions; or specialist subject. for more information please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar"


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


 
Vast Amount of Knowledge about a Specialist Topic or Specific Narrow Interest
Every specialist topic is different. If you know someone with Asperger's, chances are you know what their topic is. It can be anything that holds a fascination to the person; such as cars, science, rocks and stones, animals, art, the earth, geography, diseases etc. A fascination can be so strong that people with Asperger's may only want to think, talk and do things that are related to their specialist topic.

I guess those with Aspergers take great comfort in knowing everything, and anything about one subject. Specialist’s topics are usually related to some sort of truth; perhaps computers, devices, engineering or mechanics, history, the weather, space and indeed, collections. This is because the truth is a matter of great importance to those with Aspergers. I for one am obsessed by truth, justification and fact, and I believe others with disabilities on the Autistic spectrum are too. With all that change and unsettling misleading truth happening in every other aspect of Autistic / general life, it is comforting to find safety and inner peace from facts, and truth; specialist subjects

with variables that will rarely or never change. 

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Good Memory
 Those with Asperger's are sometimes known as a walking encyclopedia; This is due to an remarkable ability to remember facts, dates and other information The thing with having amazing memory, is that it can often means you notice and remember loads of irrelevant details, which means there is often no room for any important information (important information here means things like life skills - for example the ability to catch a bus, remembering what to do when in a shop, asking for help, etc). For instance, my memory is like a sponge it can soak up loads of amazing things, and can be super helpful, but it does sometimes mean that my 'sponge of memory' will get 'full' and important details can often 'drip' out. Its not my fault, its just a natural and rather fascinating part of who I am. What having a brilliant memory means is that we are rather clever, able to use our memory to our advantage when learning. You see when you remember so much, it allows you to learn from your surroundigns, and more seopcifically the patterns and routines within your surroundings too. My fantastic memory is one of the reasons I see my disability as a total gift!


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Obsessive Behaviors - Routines
Those with Asperger's can generally thrive within the comfort of a well structured routine. Routines have been practiced to perfection therefore I know that the routines I practice are the best I can do, no matter what the circumstances. Why change something that works so well? This obsession with truth and doing things the same way, the right way, is because not only do those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders find the facts and correct realities comforting but the truth helps those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders learn what reality and truth really is. The patterns those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders form, from seeking the truth in reality, actually help to establish and understand the unwritten rules and technicalities of their surroundings. Such rules that the patterns from routines help to understand are the same rules that those without disabilities take for granted and already understand without trying as much. Routines are absolutely paramount in the everyday life of someone on the Autistic Spectrum, and I am certainly no exception. I have a routine for absolutely everything, literally. Right down to what I have to do to emotionally and physically prepare myself to see someone, regardless of who, to what I have to do before, during and after I leave my bedroom (let alone house!). If any part of my routine is disturbed, distracted or interrupted by anything, then I have to start my routine again (regardless of how close to finishing). This is because I get so panicky that I won't be able to complete what I know is correct and the truth.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Abide by the Rules / Laws 
 Will not intentionally break any laws, rules or boundaries. Any jobs will be done 'by the book' which means that they will do everything exactly the right way -sticking to rules as much as humanely possible. Will do their best - wont do anything deliberately wrong or take any 'short cuts' that could compromise the 'truthful' and 'correct' result. Those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders can obsess over truth, justification and doing the 'right' and 'correct' thing. Due to these obsessions someone with Asperger's will try to follow social protocol 'the right way' , and behave lawfully, and with kindness, always keen to do the 'right' and 'correct' thing, and be truthful, justified and honest as much as their environment can enable them too.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Will be a Good Friend
Although communication, empathy and making friends can be hard, those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders are often good, honest and loyal friends - as much as they can be at times of overloads or high stress. We will be less likely to lie or manipulate and although we find it hard to express it, we will be very caring. We do make very good friends indeed, we just need a fighting chance and friends that understand and accept us and our quirks!  


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Trustworthy​ and Loyal
Those with Asperger's are well known to be able to keep a secret, but most importantly if you ask them to do a job, they will do that job to the best of their ability. They are likely to be punctual, presuming they have routines in place to help them. Any jobs will be done 'by the book' which means that they will do everything exactly the right way -sticking to rules as much as humanely possible, so you can trust they wont do anything deliberately wrong or take any short cuts. Due to the rules, routine and truth necessary to perform well in daily life, you can trust that someone with Asperger's, will try to to follow social protocol and behave in a manner that points in the direction of justice, kindness and truth, as much as their environment can enable them too.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Not Selfish
Despite this common misconception. The simple truth is that those with Asperger's find it impossible to lie, and hate un-justice, lack of structure and things that are 'in-correct'; with this also comes the necessity for those with Asperger's to try and be 'correct'- selfless, caring and trustworthy just like other people.  Ofcourse, there are people with Aspergers or Autism who ARE selfish - just like how there are people without disabiltiies, or with other disabilities who are selfish - its important to remember that the disability itself, is not selfish.

Its most likely created or enhanced due to environment or social structures.

So, if those with autism / Aspergers are always trying, then why is there such a prejudice that those with Autism are selfish?

 The thing to remember is that it is the disability causing the seemingly 'selfish' behaviour - and NOT the other way around. If someone on the spectrum appears to be acting selfishly, maybe having a meltdown in a supermarket, or another example, eating someones food without first asking, obliviously talking about their specialist topic to someone who couldnt care less or who is upset; it is likely to not be a deliberate response. It will be a response that has been frantically created in a desperate attempt to cope with their manic surroundings - the confusion, frustration and the complexities, whilst also trying to do the right thing and behave in the 'correct' manner. Sometimes the disability can get in the way; overloads, meltdowns and brain fog and pain can make it hard or even impossible to make connections about the right or correct way to behave. Consequently, those with Autism spectrum Disorders operate on 'default', which means that a lot of the pleasantries and rules they have learnt regarding social protoco lis un accessible (for now) due to their disability.  This is not always the case, and when able and fucntioning to the best of their ability, you may noptice how different they are. This is typical of me, sometimes I cant even make connections that I need to first ask if I can eat someone elses food - there is not enough room in my brain to even think about it - Shutdowns are too strong for that. Yet, 9 times out of 10 I will be the most polite person you will ever meet - because I want to be, because I like to be, because I need to be; its not my fault I cant always access the parts of my brain that remind me of how to act selfless or considerate. I am always trying.

The behaviours or characteristsic I listed above, may seem selfish - but it is not selfish at all, because being selfish mean you are thinking of yourself without a care for the right thing or other people - with people with Aspergers, this is not the case - as they always trying to behave and communicate 'correctly', -its not their fault that their disability can make it so hard sometimes, especially with the massive pressure to be correct, the countless diffculties (and disabilities) of Autism that affects every second of life in a variety if un known ways, coupled with people snegative perceptions - the most important thing is that they are trying!

I know many people who have Autism who arent selfish, even they are wrongly labeled so. They will try to make effort in their own unque way to show they care or to try and be considerate or selfless. I guess we just need to learn how each indiviual tries to show they care or love; it could be that although they are chewing your ear off talking about themsleves or their favourite topic, and it seems selfish because you are upset, they actually just really like you, and want to you to see the joy that they expereince from their specialist subject, by describing it to you. In a case like this, they are showing you that they do care, and they want to make you feel better, by doing the only thing they know how - the one thing that makes them calmer and happier - specialist topics.  Theory of mind does mean that they can not establish that other people wouldnt be interested, so to them, they are helping you - they are being good. This can include behaviour or actions; you just need to distinguish in what way the individual is trying to show that they care because the truth is Autism is not selfish - we are always trying, we just need to be understood. 

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Passionate and Motivated to Learn
Especially when in relation to their specialized topic or interest. Very good at learning, and soaking up information, and can be very hardworking, when in a supportive and appropriate environment with suitable teaching methods.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Obsessive with the Truth, Justice and Facts 
Very honest and less likely to manipulate and tell lies. ​


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Ability to Communicate Specifically about their Personal Specialized Topic​
​Due to difficulty communicating, those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders tend to use their specialized topics as a point of conversation and are very good at communicating this way.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Likely to have an Ability to Notice lots of Details Others Don't Realize are There
Although this leads to overloads and meltdowns, this also means that those with Autistic Spectrum Disorders are also able to remember details that others are swift to forget - sometimes this can be very helpful.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



In conclusion...

I love my disability because it has taught me understanding and allows me to notice many things from my environment. It allows me to learn so much more from my surroundings, simply because I take in so much more than most people.

My disability, and the support I have recieved really has enabled me to achive my dreams; if it werent for my disability, I would not have such a personal insight into the fascinating world of Autism. I would not be able to remember facts and easily learn about everything that interests me, and retain all the information. With my Aspergers, I would not have (as much of) an (personal and unique) understanding of the diverse beauty of the human race; such understanding which has allowed me to be motivated and passionate to make change.

My disability is wonderful with all its quirks, because ulitmately, it has given me the gift of humanity, understanding, accepting and a beautiful ability to be honest, passionate, motivated to learn (and help) and be a caring human being.
I would not change my disability for the world;  I love my Aspergerworld!​

Do you wish to create an swell of understanding within your mind, about the depths of Aspergers Syndrome?

Then I suggest you check out my list! The first thing you should know, is that we, with Autism, tend to like lists :)

Here I talk about the various challenges, the hidden difficulties, and the quirks and gifts, of having a disability on the Autistic Spectrum.

At the top I list the challenges, and below the slide show, I list the quirks and gifts of Asperger's Syndrome.
Please note, that I go into a lot more detail on each subject, and much more, in my newly published book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


​Challenges for those who have an Autistic Disability

Problem Solving and Social Imagination

I have always found it very difficult to make connections and work out solutions to problems (especially at times of high stress); this is due to my lack of social imagination and my inability to process new information that could help. I need to allow my brain space to work out appropriate possibilities to best help for a solution. Also, when there is too much sensory input to focus on, and a problem or unexpected change displays itself to me (which happens constantly) solutions to problems seldom come up because my brain can’t think about new possibilities of helping, without first removing the old sensory stimuli. Problems that seem simple to others become a task of swift impossibility for me. This is because every thought process is painful, complicated and hard; I get severe dizziness and brain fog that makes it almost impossible for me to make even the simplest of connections, like how to load a dish-washer if it is full, or for instance, I could be looking outside at the rain and not realize I need to wear a coat.

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Sensory or Information Overloads

When I get Sensory Overloads, I can’t cope with any of my senses, and all my senses become so clear that it is impossible to think; everything gets too loud, too detailed and too bright to look at, too smelly, too itchy or rough to the touch. This is one reason why I get distracted by everything around me. My senses are so finely tuned that I notice everything. I look around and it is like looking through a pair of binoculars, zooming in to every minor detail. This means I get a lot of information overloads. During an information overload, I often sit on the floor, screeching, crying, hearing screaming white noise, whilst hitting myself on the head. I feel like my skin is being stabbed by millions of tiny needles and the pain I experience at times like this is very real.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".

Meltdowns

When my sensory or information overloads get too much to cope with that I have Meltdowns. For instance, a sensory overload, will become a meltdown if I am problem solving, trying to do something, multi tasking, coping with change in routine or coping with unexpected stresses.

Meltdowns are out of my control and when they happen there is little I can do to stop them aside from someone calming me down, or removing myself from situation causing the Meltdown. Its important to remember that, Meltdown or Overloads are NOT Tantrums; there is a massive difference, all of which I detail within My book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar"
 
1. Someone having a meltdown has no control over their actions, and may start hurting themselves; they are simply communicating something is wrong, the very last way they know how to
2. Someone having a meltdown will usually avoid all contact with others, including eye, and physical contact.

3. Someone having a meltdown would often screech loudly for long periods of time (or make a noise that has the possibility to drown out all other noises) to try and re calm tghem sleves - it may seem unhepful but actually, its a very neccessary compenent to be able to be noisy when in the midst of a meltdown - it provides focus and an ability to re group thinking stratgeies to over come triggering factors.
4.  Meltdowns can often consist of physical excursion too, perhaps continued motion, stamping of feet, rocking or swinging of arms, this is usually to vent out distressed energies that has been building from the sensory overload, and to overload the other senses by attempting to focus on just one continued motion.

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Shutdowns
An Autism shutdown means that your body, and your brain’s usual abilities, literally shutdown, alongside an over whelming addition of anxiety and obsessing over daily 'in-justice' - and being unable to control or change unhelpful obsessive thinking patterns. For instance, at a moments notice, everything I can usually do, I suddenly can’t. Every difficulty I usually have as a result of my Autism is enhanced to the degree of being impossible to cope with. Shutdowns are a result of unresolved stressful circumstances, injustice- usually things that are completely out of control, such as school, work or college... or indeed every day ‘un stressful’ life. Shutdowns are a type of overload, and even though the two are very different, a Shutdown is also a type of Meltdown. My shutdowns give me great chronic pain, in ability to walk, insane dizziness, white noise, brain fog, and something called surges, that feel like seizures. I become unable to talk, make even the simplest of connections, or understand information at all. Often hitting my head in frustration at not understanding what is being said and not being able to answer questions; even if I know the answer. I open my mouth and stutter, dribbling, babbling worthless sounds, desperately trying to portray what I mean, but my shutdown, my exhaustion, the pain, everything, is too strong... I can’t control it, no matter how hard I try. Someone suffering with an Autism Shutdown often hide themselves somewhere compact, peaceful, or they lie on the floor; they avoid having their eyes open, make no noise, and don’t move, because they are far too over loaded, and exhausted, for any of that.


 I guess the difference is that a meltdown is an uncontrollable physical reaction against an injustice (change of routine, dishonesty, overload or stress), certainly not a fault to be corrected, or a tantrum, Where as a Shutdown is being completely unable to do anything at all, including physical actions and speech; unable to think, cope or do anything at all to any usual ability – certainly nothing physical. I said earlier I may hit myself on the head, but please know that it would be a one off, because there is literally no more energy left to be more aggressive. Although  if I did have the energy to hit my head, during a shutdown, the exhaustion would take its toll within minutes, and I would then be in bed for days recovering and unable to walk).

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Processing Information and Making Connections
Difficulty with taking in information at times of high stress or when distractions are present, and complexities with realizing basic requirements in language, behavior and actions due to inability to read social environments social cues and organizational skills.


I find it very hard to process information. The average person can process what is being said within a split second, and then often automatically understand it too; which allows them to create a suitable reply within seconds. Well I say lucky them, because it takes me 5 seconds longer to process every new word in every conversation, and then even longer to understand what has been said. This has had a massive impact on my learning, development and how I relate and converse with other people. In most situations I stay silent because I am unable to process the information quick enough to formulate a response. I am often referred to as extremely shy because I am so quiet, but the truth is, I want to talk. I have a lot to say and I am keen to voice my opinions. Unfortunately, the conversation normally moves so quickly I don't get a chance to say anything at all.

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Understanding and Portraying all Forms of Communication, Facial and Body Language
Difficulty understanding spoken language, sarcasm, and understand language in literal manner. due to hardship in reading and understanding language, it does mean that communicational skills are vastly impacted, with sentences and information said out of context. Can not read facial expressions, such as emotions happy and sad, and will likely not recognize the vital signs people communicate via body language.


I don’t understand the very language in which I speak. Imagine listening to someone talk and every other word they say is in a different language. Can you imagine how that would impact your understanding of what they were saying? For me, this happens in most conversations I have. I come across very shy or Un-opinionated but this isn’t the case. I’m just unable to process the information quick enough to formulate a response. It takes me so long to process information in conversations (about 10 seconds longer than a non autistic person) plus all the information from all my screaming senses, that I often don’t have a chance to think of something appropriate to say before the conversation finishes, and that’s assuming I don’t have an overload or seizure from the pressure.

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



 
Multi Tasking Thinking / Actions
Due to the necessity for routine and structure in all actions in everyday life, and problem solving difficulty, those with Autistic Disorders find it hard to multi task both their actions, and their thoughts.

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Maintaining Eye Contact 
Some people believe this is why those with Autistic Disorders find it hard to read social situations, and people, although this is an aspect, this is not entirely the case. The main reason those with Autistic Disorders avoid all types of eye contact is to make the process of problem solving easier. Even simple things like processing what is being said is made easier by staring into space at nothing, than trying to work out what is being said, whilst also struggling to read what your facial expressions means at the same time.

If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Aggressive Behavior
This is not being 'naughty' as its usually not the persons (with ASD) fault that they can not cope with their surroundings, and don't know how communicate the in justice effectively. Often at times of high stress, either from overloads, meltdowns or inability to communicate effectively some people with Autistic Spectrum Disorders can react aggressively. 'Naughty' or aggressive behavior can often be a means of communicating something is wrong. Often this naughty or aggressive behavior means that the person has no other means to cope with the chaos of the world around them, and has no choice but to react in this way (as with the a meltdown or overload). Aggressive behavior does not necessarily mean someone with Autistic Spectrum Disorders is purposely being naughty. With patience, support, various therapies and counselling, these behaviors can sometimes be safely modified.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Making Friends  and Maintaining Friendship
Due to communication difficulties, complexities with picking up and reading social cues and an inability to read social situation (the best way to behave accordingly) it can be very difficult for those on the Spectrum to be able to make, and maintain friendships. Often having a disability on the spectrum can lead to overloads, which can sometimes mean dates and meetings with friends will be unintentionally cancelled. Or, as an example, communicating any difficulties or upset to a friend can become so difficult that most unfortunately, friends can often become offended - which is often un intended by those with A.S; whom are just trying to help by being honest, perhaps! Additionally I find it really hard to organize myself to arrange to meet my friends, let alone going out and actually meeting them. No matter how much I love to see my friends I always face these challenges; I am very lucky that my friends are all so kind and understanding. 


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Empathizing with Other People and "Putting Themselves in Other Peoples Shoes"
Also known as understanding that other people have minds / theory of mind.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Dislike Invasion of Personal Space

Dislike of being touched or touching others, also inability to realize when invading someone else's personal space due to poor spatial awareness.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".



Unspoken Pain or Discomfort
The Autistic Spectrum often comes with a wide variety of pain due to overloads, shutdowns, sensitivity and digestive issues; due to communication difficulty, these complexities often remain in-treated. Just a little example, showering can feel like being assaulted by scolding hot wet nails, brushing hair can feel like dragging needles through your hair, simply touching anything at all can cause finger tips to feel as if they are burning, particularly during overloads. As I mentioned before, I have a big problem with my shutdowns, which can cause me chronic pain;  agony that cramps my entire body, making me unable to move - often house bound for weeks at a time, unable to walk or move properly.  It can feel like my feet are twisting as I lean on them, I could go on for ever about my pain, but there is no need, I'm sure you get the idea -  I'm always in pain, all over my body, for no reason! Please remember this is simply just how it affects me, and not everyone who experiences shutdowns experience the same amount of pain as I do, so don't panic. Generally the exhaustion from sensitivity and shutdowns can give those with Autism aches and pains, similar to that of a flu virus, particularly headaches or migraine's, muscle pain and extreme fatigue, all of which can be improved, or worstened, depending on the situation and environment.

Problems with digestion can include consistent severe tummy pain / cramps,
constipation, diarrhoea, flatulence, bowel incontinence, acid reflux and food allergies. As was the case with me, it was beyond any control, my body just wouldn't let me do what was necessary to help me, (I.E, my body wouldn't let me poo and pass wind no matter how much agony or ill I was!) often it can seem like these symptoms are occurring even with a good diet and exercise, and in school I was always very ill  and in a horrid amount of pain, missing school, with digestive issues. Having said that, good diet and exercise does make a world of positive difference to levels of pain experienced by those with autism- Doctors, as always, can try to help with this. 

COMING SOON: Please see "Videos" - "Capture a Challenge" for my new video about hidden pain, what my pain would look like if it were visible and the affects pain has on my life.


If you wish to learn more please read my book "AspergerWorld : My Fairy Jam Jar".


Disclaimer: I am not an Autistic Spectrums Disorder expert, nor am I a Therapy Professional. Any advice I give is for educational and informational purposes only, and should not be considered professional advice. Professionals, such as teachers, doctors and therapist should be consulted before any life style changes are made, This website, and my services, should not be seen as a replacement for professional diagnosis, medication, or therapy. I refer to myself as a professional; however this is due to my experiences as an individual with an Autistic Spectrum Disorder and not due to my qualifications. Everything on this website is written from experiences and my own personal opinions. I hope to educate and inspire others with my knowledge.  I can not guarantee any personal success or results, and will no be held responsible for any lack of success. 

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